The Most Notable Tips And Pointers For Parents

Raising a child is tough work, without any level of advice or preparation can alter that. Preparation and knowledge might have an effect, though, on the results that hard parenting work brings. A helpful tip in the perfect time will make the parenting process less difficult. Continue reading to obtain a few tips which may solve some child-rearing problems.

Should you be an expectant parent, remember that it is not essential to spend obscene numbers of money furnishing your nursery. You will find many items that you will need to furnish your nursery from cribs, to sheets at shops for a small part of the retail price, without having to sacrifice quality. Also, consider asking family and friends with children in case they have old baby items that they not any longer need.

Your kids will always be watching your behavior as being a map for a way they ought to behave. Your young ones need to find out that they could trust you.

Clear some room with a counter near the sink, have your son or daughter set down, and after that run the faucet over his hair and skin. For many toddlers, this technique is going to take the fear out from having their heads dunked or water poured over them.

If you are out and about by using a young child, make an effort to retain their eating and sleeping routines provided you can. Small children and babies will get anxious on the streets. Having their normal rituals in position makes the new space seem less scary and a lot more relaxing, that will help everyone get to sleep.

It is actually frequently hard for preschoolers to help make transitions. Switching from a single activity to another one may cause a youngster quite a lot of duress and could lead to temper tantrums.

Never feed your young ones soda in every form, whether regular or diet. Your young child should drink milk, juice or water to obtain the nutrients and vitamins they needs.

Usually do not smoke in your house if you have children living with you. Actually, why not quit smoking altogether? Secondhand smoke is really as damaging as actually smoking. Breathing second-hand smoke in childhood is related to many different respiratory conditions, such as asthma and bronchitis.

While you are a mother or father, it’s really important to manage yourself. It is important that you have time out daily, even should it be only some minutes, to de-stress and revitalize your energy reserves. You may feel better, as well as your children will likely be happier consequently.

When you are marrying somebody who has dependent children, recognize that the stepchildren probably won’t warm your decision straight away. Children are often upset that their parents split up, and might take that resentment out on you. It is essential to go ahead and take relationship slow. It will allow you as well as the child to arrive at know the other person better and to experience a relationship which is built on a strong foundation.

Though many people share the event to be a mother or father, it requires skills that might not come naturally. It is common for moms and dads to question their friends, family and colleagues for advice and information. Raising children might be surprisingly tough, and every parent can use the advice of other people who happen to be with the process. Helpful parenting tips comes from anywhere, and are generally most welcome once they arrive.

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The Rights Of Children In The UK Still Being Ignored

Despite repeated campaigns and protests by numerous organisations across the UK, the rights of children are still being ignored by government, CAFCASS and judges, allowing parental alienation to occur, without punishment for the abusing parent, typically the mother.

There is no question that most parents are decent people, but too many mothers are getting away with child abuse in the UK without punishment.

We receive calls and emails almost daily from desperate fathers who are being denied access to their children by spiteful, abusive ex partners. Judges and CAFCASS officers highly favour mothers and ignore evidence shown to them.

I myself have been through a long court battle and yet, I still only see my child once every month, because of manipulation by the mother and grandmother. A once loving and caring child only sees one side of the family (the mothers) and spends all her time with a step-father and step-grandfather and is alienated from her other side of the family (the fathers), despite having great relationship with them, when she does eventually get to spend time with them.

The mother and grandmother buy her affection with all the latest gadgets and she has simply become a manipulated, robotic version of them, for their own selfish pleasure.

I hope that one day she can truly think for herself, away from her captors, but I fear this may be a long way off in the future.

Fathers and good mothers need to unite against parental alienation, which is child abuse against innocent children, who will no doubt later suffer in teenage and adult life.

The UK needs to join countries such as Switzerland and Brazil to punish parents that intentionally abuse their children.

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Third of family break-up children lose contact with fathers in ‘failing’ court system, poll

Tens of thousands of children a year are losing contact with their fathers because of “failing” family court system and disastrous custody arrangements, a study has found

One in three children whose parents separated or divorced over the last 20 years disclosed that they had lost contact permanently with their father.

Almost a tenth of children from broken families said the acrimonious process had left them feeling suicidal while others later sought solace in drink, drugs or crime.

They complained of feeling “isolated” and “used” while parents admitted having used children as “bargaining tools” against each other.

Lawyers said the study showed that the court system itself was making family break-up more acrimonious with children used as “pawns”.

They warned that so-called “no fault” divorces were encouraging warring parents to channel their “bloodletting” into disputes over contact.

Opposition politicians said the poll presented an alarming picture of a system “in a mess” which was all too often leaving fathers “shut out”.

The poll of 4,000 parents and children was carried out to provide a snapshot of the workings of the family court system exactly 20 years after the implementation of the landmark 1989 Children Act.

It found that a third of children from broken families had been tempted by drink or drugs while as many as 10 per cent had later become involved in crime.

A quarter of the children said that they had been asked to lie to one parent by the other and 15 per cent said they had even been called on to “spy” for their mother or father.

Meanwhile half of parents polled admitted deliberately drawing out the legal process for maximum benefit and more than two thirds conceded that they had used their children as “bargaining tools”.

About 250,000 couples, both married and non-married, separate every year affecting 350,000 kids, according to the Department for Children Schools and Families.

“The adversarial nature of the system invites people to come and use the courts system as a punch up and the children get used as pawns,” said Sandra Davis, head of family law at Mishcon de Reya, for whom the poll was conducted.

“It polarises parents and it puts children in the middle of the antagonism.

“Some fathers back off because it is too painful to carry on litigating, they give up.”

Tim Loughton, the Tory Shadow children’s minister, said: “This is alarming evidence of the very detrimental impact it is having on the welfare of the children themselves.”

“Clearly, the court system is failing and is positively encouraging conflict – and continuing conflict.”

Iain Duncan Smith, the former Conservative leader and founder of the Centre for Social Justice, warned that young people were bearing the scars of a divorce “boom” and a resulting lack of father figures.

“It is a mess, it needs a complete overhaul,” he said. “It is an organisation locked in secrecy and deeply unhelpful to the parents and the children and all too often able to exacerbate the problems that they are about to face.”

David Laws, the Liberal Democrat children’s spokesman, added: “In too many cases the children become caught up in the crossfire between two warring parties in a system which sometimes encourages the parents to take entrenched positions.”

Miss Davis called for compulsory mediation for parents hoping to use the divorce courts rather than the current ”tick box” exercise for those seeking legal aid.

But a spokesman for the Children’s Society said that compulsion “goes against everything we have learned from many, many years of experience”.

Delyth Morgan, the children’s minister, added: “Divorce and separation can have a devastating impact on children caught in the middle.

“But this survey, looking as far back as 20 years ago, simply doesn’t reflect what support is available for families now … we have acted to give families comprehensive counselling, practical and legal support.”

Taken from the Telegraph 2009

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Children Become The Arbiters In Family Law Cases

More and more it would appear Courts are allowing children to determine if their relationship with a parent continues or the extent of that relationship, children are the arbiters in many contact and residence cases. Judges and CAFCASS will at times allow the snapshot wishes and feelings of children given to a Court Welfare Adviser to become binding, the needs of the children become secondary.

This despite the acrimony between parents or hostility from a parent directed at the other which the children are aware of. In homes where there is hostility (directly or indirectly passed to children) from the primary carer towards the other parent, it is indisputable that the vast majority of children will fall in line with that parents views.

Many times this overt hostility was early on in the Court proceedings or before but the primary carer then for appearances sake later changes to the ‘If he/she wants to see their other parent its fine by me’ or even ‘I’ve tried all I can to persuade him/her to go to contact’ – However, the child knows their parent does not really want them to go to contact and continues to try and please that parent by doing what they know he/she really wants. Putting that parents selfish wants before the child’s own needs.
Yet children’s snapshot views which are tainted by such an environment are used by plenty of Judges and Court Welfare Advisers to justify minimal or no contact. This shifting of responsibility onto children who are not in a position to determine whether they should or should not have a relationship with a parent or the extent of contact/residence schedule, is a terrible burden on children although they will not fully understand this until much later in life.

Children’s wishes and feelings are helpful and should be taken into consideration but they must not be elevated to absolve Courts from making Orders that children need.

Taken from the McKenzie Friend blog.

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Spare A Thought For An Estimated 900,000 UK Children This Christmas Separated From One Of Their Parents

According to the Children’s Society, an estimated 900,000 UK children are left without access to both parents. Spare a thought this Christmas to those children left without access to both parents and also to the parent that has lost contact due to bitter court battles to gain access to their own children.

Parental alienation plays a huge part in loss of contact for many children and new family laws need to be introduced to stop this form of child abuse.

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